Today's Daily Tip
Share Your Opinion: Truth
It is a constant effort to keep my "truth" and my focus clear of other factors that cloud me - anger, frustration, or being tired. In those times, truth can be an exhaustive process of filtering and that is when I most find myself not speaking my truth and using judgement rather than acceptance.
I think if we don't open our minds and speak what is true, we continue to live this life on the "surface". Not exploring truth, compassion and honesty is to me, very superficial. I believe that using "speaking your truth" should not be used if it is going to hurt another person. But then again some people need to hear how they affect you in order to grow. But that can still be said with compassion and love.
My "truth" is that each person has to travel their own path, make their own mistakes, and learn what they need to learn in this incarnation. My "truth" also recognizes the meaninglessness of words, so often there is no point in trying to verbalize my truth. However, my actions always reflect my truth, as do the actions of everyone. We need to pay more attention to what people do rather than what they say.
We live in a very conservative area. When I take my son to playgroups, outings with other moms, etc, I have unintentionally offended some of them by speaking the truth about fossil fuels, excessive lifestyles, war, etc. Because of their reactions, and to keep my son involved with his playmates, I censor myself almost to the point where I have to meditate to keep from blurting out some thing that might irritate one of them.
I generally speak the truth, whether requited or not, in most circumstances. If I don't how will people know what my thoughts, expectations and feelings are? They are sometimes not well received in the instance but are in the long run.
Depending on the situation I usually have a hard time speaking the truth because I do not want to cause stress or hurt others feelings. However, I have found out that I may be preventing stress for the other person, but in return I am causing me stress. I need to find a balance and figure out a way to tell the truth that will benefit all parties involved.
Don't we all wish that we could feel comfortable speaking our truth no matter what, who are we hurting by holding our truth back? Mostly ourselves!!!! May we all be able to speak our truth everyday!!!!
We often mistake opinion for truth and think we need to share an opinion. When that opinion may cause harm, and we refrain from speaking, that is not being uncomfortable with truth, it is using common sense and compassion.
You ask if I feel comfortable speaking the truth in any situation. The key word here is "comfortable." Is there anybody who feels comfortable in every single situation? The answer to that is probably no. It is not that difficult to speak the truth in almost any situation, if you give yourself enough time to listen first, understand the situation, get a feeling for the others involved, and then take the time to formulate what you what to say. Sometimes doing these things even changes your notion of what you think the truth is. Perhaps you come into a situation believing one thing, but find yourself persuaded that the truth may lie somewhere else.