Life Without Sex?
"Every time we get out of a habitual groove, we are training the mind, we are channeling the mind's energy in a more benign manner," he adds. "And that's really the purpose of all these yoga practices: to discipline the mind so that we are not driven by our biological or unconscious nature. We become mindful, and in that way we can attain great self-knowledge and also this wonderful thing we call self-transcendence."
For Lasater, it's not just our actions but also our attitudes behind them that really matter. "I could become a nun and lead a celibate life and still not have clarity about sexuality," she says. "Or I could even run from sexuality by being promiscuous. But what is considered promiscuous to my grandmother and what's promiscuous to my daughter might be completely different things. So it's not the action; it's the clarity.
"Brahmacharya is not an answer; it's a question," Lasater adds. "And the question is, How will I use my sexuality in a way that honors my divinity and the divinity of others?"Claudia Cummins lives, writes, and teaches yoga from her home in Mansfield, Ohio. To maintain her balance while writing this article, she read both The History of Celibacy and Lady Chatterley's Lover.