I so needed this article...learning to let go...has been difficult and a day to day process for me.
June Yvonne West
A really good article. We must always look deeply inside ourselves.
Thank you for the beautiful article! Letting go is probably the hardest thing to do, much harder and more "natural" then holding tight on feelings of entitlement, grudges, whatever doesn't serve us anymore. Yet it is through letting go that we learn mastery of our emotions and grow stronger. Healing doesn't happen at any level unless one can let go. Bagavad Gita offers an in depth analysis of non-atachment and Meiester Eckhart terms it so well as "Let it go and let it be!"
This is a great article. Really. I've read so many about forgiveness, and this has been the most important one. Thank you. A challenge for me... in my situation, my "Matthew" is my spouse... I've done all of these four parts. Several times over. And he can't forgive me and I've not been ready or willing to let go. We don't want to end our marriage, but for me, sharing a life with someone who holds me in unforgiveness is no way to live, and for him, sharing a life with someone he can't forgive is just as painful. What then...? What else is possible...? That's my struggle. What wisdom could Buddhism offer in this situation...?
Thanks that was great!
I wish you all the best on your journey.
Thank you I will try...
Amazingly this article chose me at a time in my life where I am struggling with forgiveness and forgiving myself.. The article has given me food for my soul which has been in such conflict. I was starving. Thank you so very much.
To Terry, I appreciate your observation" an insincere apology can be more hurtful than the original transgression". May we be spared.
I think he gonna look for u in future and tries to accept yr apology and forgives u.he needs time. maybe in ten years.u sent him a letter after 10 years!
Why is it the one who was initially harmed is still seen as the wrongdoer in this tale (and also in life)? Surely there are two issues here or is life just about those suffering from jealous rages and not those who are at the receiving end of it and damaged sometimes beyond repair by these jealousies? Surely Matthew could not just 'trust' her again so easily? Why is he 'blamed' for not forgiving when he probably had to pick up the pieces of his broken love and move on, wiser and more careful in his choice of friends?