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Feel Your Fish

Most of us who do yoga yearn for more from the practice than just physical benefits—indeed, for more than just benefit ... (continued)

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Natasha Salmon Cogno

Great article! Thank you, Judith, for sharing your knowledge and wisdom with all of us. Love your interpretation of the Niyamas. Hope to see you in San Francisco in 2013 at the YJ Conference! Already signed up for one of your classes!

Martin Deehan

Thanks for this illuminating article!

Sharon

Excellent article. Thank you.

Christine Frisco

Thank you for this illuminating discussion of the niyamas.
Isn't saucha like satya and ahimsa?

Thirumoorthy

Very useful for one's life.Thank you.

Anne

re: Bobbie...You deserve a man who knows and values your worth. Its that simple. If you feel you deserve more than he is able to give, move on. Don't devalue yourself one more day.
(coming from experience)
Peace and love

ommare

Could it simply be, Bobbie, that this man does not really want to spend time with you? Or that his perception of the relationship is not the same as yours?

Julie

I can understand what stellabloo is saying, since I am at a crossroads where I want to find things that make me happy. But then if I begin the search for happiness, then I may search for the rest of my life, not satisfied with anything nor anyone that may come my way. Meditation will teach us to accept the present moment(s) and the people and things that inhabit such moment. No one or nothing is perfect; actually the word perfect should be banished from language all together.

stellabloo

In reply to Bobbie's dilemna, the hallmarks of the co-dependant relationship are generally an undue focus on the need to fix the problems of another and loss of self-identity to the point where one's feelings of self-worth are inextricably tied to the behaviour of the other.

Isvara Pranidhana is not just a yogic concept; it lies at the core of the 12 Step Program. When we devote ourselves completely to our Higher Power, when we fully trust that we will receive all that we truly need, we open ourselves to relationships with all our fellow beings instead of this dream of the perfect partner.

To concentrate this much mental energy on the one person who is pushing you away is a waste of the Divine Love within you; there are people all around you, including yourself, who can benefit from your love. I'm no psychic, but my thought is that you should walk away and concentrate instead on other things that bring joy and meaning into your life. This is not giving up on the relationship; if it's that easy for you to be thrown "off balance" by another, than think of it as a call to return to Centre.

Armonia

Hello Bobbie! I think this person is very selfish. However, we can't not judge him. I also think that he needs lots of touching(in a loving way, of course). I got the feeling that when growin up, he was the 'center of atention', and somehow he feels....that 'he is the one that needs to be served'.

Why 'touching' him? well, regardless the fact that 'he was the main atention once in his life', the lack of real love remains there.....! I do feel...sorry for him! I do feel...that all he wants is to be loved.

What to do in order to help him? Show him 'facts of life', in a very inteligent way!! for example, live him 'alone'(meaning: don't call...do nothing), he has to 'notice' this and he will react.

The reason why he has been....'alone' is because of his attitude. The more he gets into 'himself' the more help he needs. He is just being...defensive.

I will advice you, that when doing...Yoga, in LOCTUS Asana, after activating all of your chakras, once you get into 'your third eye'(between your eyebrows), see how this 'energy/light' moves...out. Then, bring it down to your 'heart chakra', move it out...in a very gentle, loving way, then......'''just see him''' receiving this love from you.

Give this a try! there is nothing...to lose but, who to know? it will 'touch' him! believe me.

Love and Light to you, Namaste! Armonia/psychic

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