The Grounding Sequence We All Need in the Aftermath of School Shootings & Other Scary News

When overcome by feelings of powerlessness and inadequacy in response to hard-to-swallow current events, yoga teacher (and mom) Nancie Carollo turns to the potent practice of surrender.
By Nancie Carollo ,

The morning after the massacre at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Florida, I dropped off my seventh-grader at school just like always and said “I love you.” But instead of his typical, hasty “you, too” response, this time he held my gaze, looked straight into my eyes, and said, “I love you, mama.” With that seemingly simple change in his tone and timing, he showed me that he had internalized—again—another sorrowful reminder that no one can promise his safety.

As I drove away to a business-as-usual workday, I wept. When I got to my desk, I had a hard time concentrating. Honestly, I’m still distracted by the gnawing feeling that this latest carnage isn’t going to be the tipping point for change. I’m overwrought by a deep sense of inadequacy in how we are collectively showing up for this country’s children. I’m filled with impatience at the government officials doing nothing to make changes. I feel powerless, fearing that yet another round of phone calls to my representatives isn’t going to make a difference.

Hopefulness and resilience—the kind I work hard to instill in my kids as a mother—depend on tangible evidence that things can and will get better. Lately, that has been in short supply.

When darkness begins to creep into my consciousness, it’s hard not to feed my own cynicism to my children. Yet part of my job is to ensure they have more reasons to be hopeful about the future than not—an increasingly tall task, considering my middle- and high-schooler boys’ first exposure to distressing news like the latest school shooting often occurs during the day. I sometimes don’t hear about their reactions to the events until we’re at the dinner table. And what I’ve learned is that if I am not grounded, ready to listen, and able to empathize (read: if I’m indignant or fearful), I’m not able to give them the emotional fortitude they need.

How the Practice of Surrender Helps Me Get Through Tough Times

It may seem counterintuitive, but I replenish my courage through a practice of deep, repetitive surrender from the teachings of Sri Baba Hari Dass. Stepping away from news and social media to turn inward helps reset the negative feedback loop of life these days.

The Sanskrit word for surrender is Praṇām. Its asana is prostration—fully prone on the floor. This position requires trust and devotion in its vulnerability. It transforms the very same powerlessness that can sweep me away in the flash of a headline into a beautiful and impartial tranquility. It resets my internal compass so that I can find my way through the dark.

See also Learn the Value of Spiritual Surrender

My Home Practice of Surrender

Here’s the home practice I turned to the day after the Florida school shooting. My hope is that it gives you solace, too, and helps you find your ground in these turbulent times.

TO START Cover your mat completely with a yoga blanket folded in half to add warmth and padding.

About Our Expert
Nancie Carollo is a Denver, Colorado–based yoga teacher and Yoga Journal researcher. Learn more at nanciecarollo.com

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