Showered with Kindness


There are a lot of things I could complain about when it comes to being pregnant—my expanding "waistline," those hideous maternity clothes, the restrictions on my diet and my yoga practice. But being pregnant comes with some really great perks, too, like how people (even total strangers) are suddenly so concerned with how I'm feeling and how people have to get up to offer you a chair in crowded places.

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People have even gathered together to give me things they think will make my life easier when the baby comes—gadgets, diapers, baby clothes, gift cards (that's not even counting all the free advice!). I've had two baby showers now. And both times I've come home and thought to myself, "What on earth have I done to deserve all of this?" The answer, of course, is nothing. People I know (and even some people I don't know) are gathering around me to support me just to be nice.

It's enough to make me feel all warm and fuzzy inside and happy with my decision to bring a new life into this world because I've seen that people can be good, kind, considerate, and genuinely want to help make the world a better place for those around them. That's a great feeling!

I think I have my yoga practice to thank for opening my eyes to the good in people. It's like the happy glow that sometimes spreads over me after a particularly great yoga class.

OK, I also feel a little scared that it will all come crashing down at any minute. We all know it's not always sunshine and fluffy clouds. I'm sure that when I bring my little bundle home from the hospital, I'll be faced with a whole new reality of sleepless nights and feelings of inadequacy when I can't get my baby to sleep. I'll probably even have moments of frustration at the people around me who, despite their best attempts to help, won't be able to. But I hope that during those moments of desperation when I think I can't take any more, I'll be able to look back and remember how good the people in my life have been to me. Maybe I'll even remember to ask them for help.

For me, pregnancy has been a beautiful reminder of one of the most important lessons I've learned on my yoga mat: We're all in this together, so we might as well spend our energy lifting each other up and helping out when we can. There aren't enough pink and blue thank you cards in the world to express my gratitude for that.