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What Each Zodiac Sign Wants in a Relationship

Although there's a nuanced complexity to each of us that defies definition, there are certain tendencies that astrology can reveal.

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According to Google, the answer to the question of what each zodiac sign wants in a relationship is a pretty precise list of traits that will instantly decipher your baffling and self-sabotaging ways—or those of that person with whom you’re stuck in the talking phase.

According to astrology, it’s much more complicated than that.

Yes, astrology can offer some insight into your (or your person’s) innate tendencies, traits, and ways of interpreting the world based on the placement of the Sun, planets, and stars at the moment of your birth. But it can’t possibly capture the untold complexity of you in all your indecipherable uniqueness. Nor can it do that for your person.

What astrology can offer you is a measure of self-awareness, a more nuanced understanding of yourself and your ways of being that are so intrinsic to who you are you might not even be aware of their existence—or how they paint your experience and expectations of situations and others.

Here’s some of what your astrological sign can help you understand what you bring to relationship as well as your wants, needs, kinks, and quirks in that space.

What each zodiac sign wants in a relationship

Your Sun sign, or the horoscope you typically read, is one component of who you are. You can also look to your (or your person’s) rising sign, which addresses what you tend to outwardly reveal to the world.

Aries | March 21-April 19

Those born under the fire sign of Aries are some of the most passionate souls in the zodiac. Ruled by Mars, the planet of action, they tend to bring an unrelenting desire and drive to be the best at everything in life—including relationships.

Aries love the pursuit more than most signs. There’s no toying around. These motivated individuals are rarely shy about making the first move, and their directness at any state of relationship is easily misinterpreted as hurtful. In actuality, they’re simply being honest.

Aries tend to like nothing more than reveling in the achievement of their ambitions. No matter how far-fetched their ideas, Aries appreciate having someone to reflect back just how awesome they are. Someone who acts as a constant cheerleader and unofficial therapist tends to be their ideal partner.

They’re often into physical intimacy that’s spontaneous and intense, including adventurous locations and positions—especially those that allow them to be in control. Their competitive drive can benefit their partners. enhance lustiness in this smoldering sign.

Taurus | April 20-May 20

Those born under Taurus are ruled by Venus, the planet of love and beauty. Unlike Aries, Taurus prefer to take their time and revel in the experience. These earth signs often have an affinity for the finer things and possess a groundedness that keeps them in touch with their senses. They welcome physical comfort and sensuality, so indulgence in these areas tends to make them swoon.

Like most things in Taurus’ life, sexual experiences are regarded as an essential need, much like indulgent food and fashionable yet comfortable clothes They value physical touch above all else. Although Taurus prefers any encounter that involves a lot of slow touching, kissing, and eye contact, even a lazy day on the sofa, it’s even more preferable if it takes place in a luxe 5-star hotel.

Gemini | May 21-June 20

This playful air sign is drawn to intellectual pursuits. Someone who will listen to and debate with them and keep them intellectually stimulated is like catnip.

Gemini knows what they like—and how to get it. This is usually due, in no small part, to their charm. They’re masters of flirting, teasing, and sexting, which are all part of the act of seduction for the sign ruled by twins. They like to take their time with physical intimacy. Once they get to the act, though, be prepared to try everything and in every way possible.

Cancer | June 21-July 22

Cancers desperately crave security and intimacy. Paradoxically, they have a reflexive tendency to hide and self-protect. To coax a cautious Cancer out of their shells, you’ll need to earn their trust through ample attention—but only genuine warmth and affection will do, as this intuitive sign will know when the vibe is off or the effort is insincere.

Since they seek security, Cancers do well with someone who is generous with their time and who graciously accepts the intense love Cancer offers.

Not typically the type for one-night stands, Cancer will let loose with surprising and erotic dispays of affection when they feel seen and understood. This doesn’t mean that they’re into acrobatics or bringing yoga into the bedroom. They prefer loving encounters with ample physical contact.

Leo | July 23-August 22

Stereotypes sometimes exist for a reason. This is exquisitely true for Leos, who have a reputation for loving to be admired. Charismatic and alluring, they’ll go out of their way to stand out in any crowd so they can be the constant recipient of affection and adulation. This can become exhausting for their partners, as can their flair for drama.

What’s less understood about Leos is they can be exceptionally generous when it comes to pleasing their partners. This includes amorous activities. These lions tend to gravitate toward positions that flaunt their power and strength—even better if it can be reflected back to them in front of a mirror.

Virgo | August 23-September 22

Analytical and logical, Virgos can be difficult to figure out at the beginning. This practical earth sign usually wants to understand you fully before finally committing. Once they do commit, they tend to remain true, because frankly, they’ve already considered every reason not to be with you.

This organized and detail-oriented earth sign particularly appreciate an intense buildup–flirting and sexy talk is an essential part of foreplay for them. Secretly playful, Virgos tend to respond well when you bring an element of silliness to the everyday, including amorous acts. Beware, Virgos often take great comfort in the security of routine in all aspects of life.

Libra | September 23-October 22

Libras are ruled by Aphrodite, the goddess of love. They love being in love and are often quite charming and seductive. However, they can be a harder sell when it comes to being seduced. They’re a hopeless romantic and love to be shown that you understand them–preferably in the form of presents. Nothing extravagant, just something that shows you’re thinking of them.

You can keep the scales balanced by reciprocating all the pleasure that they offer you, including in the bedroom. When this happens, you can expect them to continue to do the same.

Scorpio | October 23-November 21

This water sign is easily the most intense sign of the zodiac. That’s not a bad thing, although it does require a partner who can handle depths, moods, and a sometimes mysterious psyche. Even better if their partners can match it.

Scorpio tend to be extremely passionate in life with few boundaries. Sex is incredibly important to this water sign that can easily engage in marathon between-the-sheets sessions that introduce all kinds of kinks and positions.

Sagittarius | November 22-December 21

Optimistic and enthusiastic, Sag longs for new experiences, including those involving travel and higher learning. A partner who can keep up with this pace and create memorable moments is a must.

Always looking for a new adventure, Sagittarius are open about what they want in most things, including in the bedroom, An even bigger turn on is a partner who is willing to bring something new to the experience, which can be essential for this sign to find pleasure in any situation.

Capricorn | December 22-January 19

Determined and cautious Capricorns have a work-hard, play-hard personality that also extends into relationships. They tend to appreciate luxury and value someone whose taste matches theirs. Although that isn’t the only qualification they seek in partners, making them the recipient of something exquisite that they’ve been coveting will get you far with them.

Capricorns are also known for their ability to be discerning. The grounded earth sign tends to not enter into a sexual relationship before they know where they stand in a relationship. Once comfortable, they’ll begin to explore out-of-the-box experiences with their partner. Don’t overlook spooning or any position which allows ample physical contact and comfort.

Aquarius | January 20-February 18

Like fellow air sign Gemini, Aquarius appreciates intellectual stimulation and conversation. This sign can be so logical as to seem detached even from those they love the most. Their hearts are given to causes they believe in, so supporting them in their plans to save the world is one of the most endearing acts you can do.

Commitment isn’t necessarily high on the list of relationship musts for Aquarius. Some might say they’re one of the signs most likely to prefer a “friends with benefits” situation. The water bearer loves anything voyeuristic and modernistic, such as sexting and cheeky for-your-eyes-only videos.

Pisces | February 19-March 20

Pisces love to create a true connection with their partner. This means being able to trust that they can let down their guard with someone and know that person will show up for them. This can be difficult, however, as the expectation is that support will happen without even asking, which can place their partner in the position of needing to read their mind.

This water sign symbolized by dual fishes wants nothing more than to merge with another. The act of sex for them is sensual, erotic, even otherworldly. Positions that allow you to face one another facilitate their desired closeness, all the better sitting close to one another with legs intertwined.

See also: What 2023 Holds For You (Yes, Your Horoscope)

About our contributor

Jenny Latreille lives in Northern Ontario, where the Moon often seems much closer than it is. Preoccupied with food, culture, the stars, and art, she spends a lot of time in nature as well as in her kitchen, where she looks for ways to combine everything–and sometimes it works. She lives in an urban jungle with a pack of cats known as “The Adorables.”