Your relationship with your mother is a defining aspect of your life. Whether that relationship has historically been positive or negative, the emotions we carry with us day-to-day from that first relationship affect much of how we see the world. As we approach Mother’s Day this May 14, let’s take time to put key relationship skills into practice that create more energy than they consume.
“Yoga is the stilling of the modifications of the mind.”
- Patanjali's second sutra
The practice of yoga and meditation helps us to quiet the mind, and work towards seeing ourselves, others, and the world, as one connection. When we let go of expectation and approach each new challenge with compassion, we’re able to create energy rather than take it. In the same way your physical yoga practice leaves you feeling energized, here are 3 key skills for creating more energy and a better relationship with your mother (or anyone in your life).
1) BE FULLY EXPRESSED
Like two wings of a bird, we reach new heights by giving it our all. Don’t hold back. Say what you’re feeling. Respect yourself and others by telling the full story. Your experience and perspective counts. Is there a moment you’re still holding on to? Communicating it frees you of the need to relive it in your mind. You open yourself to another perspective, and where those two perspectives join, we find resolution.
2) EVERYTHING IS RESOLVABLE THROUGH COMMUNICATION
We often find reasons to avoid real communication. Maybe it’s a family gathering, and it doesn’t feel comfortable to bring up a sensitive topic. Perhaps you live in a different state or country. Take the next opportunity you have and set aside just 10 minutes with your loved one to communicate openly and honestly. Express yourself. Communicate in a way that has the other person’s well-being in mind. But most importantly, listen. We all appreciate being truly heard. Allow yourself to give the gift of listening.
3) COMMUNICATION HAS 2 SIDES. YOURSELF AND THE OTHER.
“You have to take care of yourself, but if you only take care of yourself, you’ve got trouble. And if you only take care of the other, you’ve got trouble.” – Dinabandhu Sarley (Program Officer, 1440 Multiversity)
Self-care isn’t just self-expression. When you’re sleeping well, eating well, and your energy is good, you’re in the best position to communicate effectively. Similar to a professional athlete, you need to focus all aspects of your life and stay mindful of what you’d like to accomplish. Once you’ve built a foundation for self-care, turn your attention outward.
This Mother’s Day, take an opportunity to approach your relationship with your Mom in a new light.
1,440 MINUTES IN EACH DAY
Every minute is an opportunity to learn and practice. Change starts with a shift in your mind. Everything that follows can be broken down into learnable skills.
1440 Multiversity is the first state-of-the-art, purpose-built, personal and professional development immersion center, designed to offer a time and a place to get out of your everyday life and create transformation. With a high-challenge and low-threat environment you can focus on learning, growing and changing. That change starts with you, but extends to loved ones, colleagues, and communities in which we share space and ideas. Connect – with yourself, with others, and with your potential.
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