Start by tapping the area beneath your collarbones with your fingertips. Do this for 1-2 minutes, as you take slow, deep breaths. You may want to close your eyes and begin to draw attention inward. Next, move to whatever part of your body is asking for attention. Leaving the realm of thought and moving into the realm of sensation helps us notice what emotions, including sadness, feel like in our bodies. It might be an anvil in your stomach or a firestorm in your head says Forero Puerta. "If you can notice it," she says, "You can befriend it."